How Facebook Ruins Relationships
Facebook Can Ruin Relationships – Be careful At Some Behaviors That Can Damage Your Love Story
People have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. And many real-life relationships are ruined because of Facebook. Be careful ,control this powerful social network and don’t let your life be the next victim of it!
We have seen it all on Facebook: from flirting, to dates, to fights, to breakups. We’ve all had at least one friend who features her relationships on Facebook like it’s something from a reality show—and in fact, that friend broke up because of “you guessed it” Facebook. See how social media can ruin relationships and what you can do to avoid it.
You might want to lay off of social media, for your relationship’s sake. People who use Facebook more than once a day are more likely to report relationship conflicts arising from social media, according to a new study in the Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking. And even worse, those conflicts had a significant correlation with negative relationship outcomes, like cheating, breaking up, or getting divorced.
Researchers surveyed 205 Facebook users about how often they use the site, if they’ve had Facebook-related conflicts with a current or former partner, and if these conflicts ever led to cheating or breaking up. On average, people were using Facebook daily, so the researchers looked at any users who logged on more often than that. The result: People who spent more time on the site had more Facebook-related conflicts and negative relationship outcomes. One noteworthy finding: these results only held for couples in relationships of three years or less, so it may be the case that Facebook use is most threatening for less-matured bonds.
The more a person in a romantic relationship uses Facebook, the more likely they are to monitor their partner’s Facebook activity more stringently, which can lead to feelings of jealousy,” Facebook is also a very big open door between you and possible secrets love affairs .We all know that inside there there are all kind of temptations.
Excessive Facebook users are more likely to connect or reconnect with other Facebook users, including previous partners, which may lead to emotional and physical cheating.”
But you don’t need to deactivate your account to have a healthy relationship. Just need to learn how to control this social media ,reduce the interaction with it and choose the right interaction with others in this virtual life for the sake of the healthiness of your real and personal relationship .
Pay attention to this big mistakes and correct them, to make sure social media habits aren’t sabotaging your bond:
1. Interaction and confidence with “Facebook mushrooms”
As i specified in title also, there is a special category of people in fb. I name it “Facebook Mushrooms “ and practically are that “friends “ usually of opposite sex of your partner that grows in number and physical attributes over night, just like mushrooms after rain.This category is very dangerous for a real relationship. Facebook mushrooms are narcissist ,self-centred people ,usually using Facebook like a stage for showing their physical attractiveness, hungrily in search of attention, compliments and some easy affairs that can tickle their ego and feed their vanity .
You can recognise them by the profile picture , are very easy to individuate. Less dressed they are in these profile pictures, bigger are the probabilities that they are truly “Facebook Mushrooms “ in need for water to make them ego grow. Usually female “mushrooms” choose to expose their merchandise – so : breasts on display, pouty lips and languid eyes. They are all, more or less, like this ,simple organisms so not very much fantasy .
As for male mushrooms ,more or less the same, no one of them have familiarity with t-shirt of stuff life this, usually prefer selfie pictures in front of mirror ,on in gym, gloomy glance and one hand on the belt. Like for female , here also is much lack of fantasy, so they are very easy to recognise in one glance .
Facebook mushrooms usually display their single status, and live to show up and create problems. So as soon as you enter in a relationship they feel threaten, are afraid of loosing public and start to pay attention to you or your partner.
They never have serious intentions ,everything is a game for them ,are usually people with no serious target and often suffer of boredom .
Flirting ,provoking ,chatting is a game for them ,but can be a very harmful game for you especially if your real relationship is one you care about ,that improve your life and makes you feel love .
So “Facebook Mushrooms “ is the most dangerous category for your relationship .Stay away from them ,don’t let them tent you ,don’t accept their “friendship “. All that glitters is not gold. And can easily make you lose your real one. They are experts in this.
2. Revealing too much.
You can reveal too much in your relationship even without words. Revealing too much can take the form of posting sexy and suggestive photos that you’re better off sexting to your partner. This can spark jealousy and insecurity from your partner, especially if you have male friends, if your photos are public.
Putting your body out there in a suggestive way, when it should be kept private and for your partner’s eyes only, can trigger negative feelings from your partner and cause you to fight with each other.
3. Not being transparent.
Show that you have nothing to hide from each other, thereby fostering more trust. However, while it’s fine to share passwords as a way to reassure your partner that you are not doing any monkey business on Facebook or in any other social media platform, it is still best to know your boundaries. Giving your passwords to one another is a nice gesture, but you don’t have to feel like you have to use it—or worse, troll through your partner’s social media accounts, messages, and friends.The best way to deal with this is communicated and explaining to each other ,make virtual acquaintance with each other Facebook friends and create an atmosphere of trust. Is essential especially in the first phases of your relationship to create trust and transparency concerning social media interactions.
4. Passive-aggressive posts.
Posting on Facebook instead of talking directly to your partner can make matters worse, instead of better. Posting vague statuses and quotes on Facebook, and hoping your rather oblivious and dense partner will notice and change isn’t really going to work.
Open communication is key in any relationship, so if you have a problem with your partner, talk to them directly instead of posting about it on social media. Besides, your subliminal messages will accomplish nothing but annoy your friends.
5. Entertaining exes.
Chatting ,messaging or likes , as well as coyly replying to comments from the opposite sex from your past can make your partner uneasy, suspicious, and all-out jealous. Communicating with an ex, in any form, can be a very touchy subject to your current partner, and talking with your ex on social media, in front of everyone, has the potential to humiliate your current flame. So just don’t be friends with exes. Exes should be left in the past, as still seeking them out is rarely provoked by good intentions. Think about how you would feel if the tables were turned, and it was your partner who was communicating with their ex.
Try also to keep away from your contacts friends who continue to interact with exes. This can drive a wedge between couples.
6. Give room for misinterpretation.
Words can be open to different interpretations. This is true, as well, when you post something that your partner thinks can be a problem with them or with the relationship. Think before you post, and make sure that you are being clear and articulate. Don’t give your partner any room to misinterpret or be hurt by your posts, and avoid any posts that may stir problems, confusion, embarrassment, jealousy, or even gossip.
7. Log in when you’re upset.
If you just had a fight or you’re going through a rough patch, step away from the computer (or your phone). Since your newsfeed can be filled with happy couples or with photos of your (fitter than ever) ex, it can be filled with all temptations that make you feel bad about your relationship. It’s really easy to log on and imagine that there might be a bigger, better deal out there. With every probability you may end up shooting off a passive-aggressive post that you’ll later regret or do some stupid chat you will be sorry of .
8. Premature relationship-status change.
Avoid the relationship-status change at the very beginning of your relationship . Relationship experts agree that the worst social media faux pas is becoming “Facebook official” before you’re actually official. When a relationship is in its fragile dating stage, it’s very important to have privacy. Intimacy needs privacy to grow .Also from sharing relationship status change can come a lot of problems ,some competitors might be pushed by panic to finally share their feeling for you or jealous friends can start to boycott your new relationship and if is new and fragile they might succeed . So be sure you and your partner are strong ,have enough trust and love for each other before going as a couple into the mouth of the wolves .